Want her, don't need her

Let me start by asking you a question.

If you girlfriend/ significant other left you would your life be shit.

If the answer to that is yes its not because she's the best thing since sliced bread its because your life is shit. You've just fooled yourself into thinking you've made it cause you got a girl.

You really need to think about who you are outside of your relationship. If this girl actually is amazing she isn't gonna hang around though your contentness and mediocraty, if she does maybe she isn't actually all that.

If you answered that question something along the lines of "we'll it would suck but my life wouldn't be majorly impacted" well done you've probably got your shit together (or just your life is already so shit it it can't be much worse) but we'll go with the first.

So anyway, what do these people who can survive without their significant other all have in common? They want her, they dont need her.

The person you choose to be one of the most important people in your life should be some who you choose to have around, someone who brings something to your lifde and makes you feel a way you enjoy. Not someone you can't live without.

This is were relationships get toxic and women tend to pull back. They like the idea of being the jewel on your crown and the crown is all the other things you do and accomplish. They like feeling like a luxury not a neccesesity especially if its a high quality women cause they basically are and they know it.

The reason high quality men attract high quality women is because they are equals who can both offer the other something. Just to add a lil clarity here too high quality doesn't neccesseraly mean apperance. Just wanted to add that before i get some email hate.

Things High Quality people offer each other

We might aswell start with the obvious its an ego boost. It solififys in your mind the person you already thought you were by being withsome you percive as equal to yourself and maybe if the caliper of women who seem to find you attractive isnt what you want maybe you still got some work to put in. Trust me the munters very quickly disappear when they know you're never gonna give them a second look.

Outside of the obvious you're going to gain someone who will push you to keep acheiving and push you closer to the best version of yourself because they will not put up with contentness and leaving you behind

Because of these factors these relationships tend to thrive both equally as invested but knowing that if the other begins to pull them back or does anything unforgivable they can walk away with no issues because their life is pretty good.

Remeber a crown is still a crown weather it has a jewel or not.

This takes a huge presure of the relationship in some aspects but also means that their is no room for mistakes because they won't give you the time of day to make it up to them.

As soon as you find that person isnt on your level you will do anything to prevent them dragging you to theirs which is easy because you wanted them you never needed them.