External competition is healthy in a relationship

I love a good competition.

So if im in a relationship and im not meeting someone's expectations I expect to be told and the same the other way if a girl isn't doing certain things I want im gonna tell her.

But here's the issue especially in really long term relationships. You know you're not happy but you dont know why.

Enter a person who does something and you realise thats what's been missing. First disclaimer dont cheat its the cowards way out and something I learnt the hard way.

What you should do is tell your partner what you've realised you were missing and then if they don't change ditch em and go find someone who does them.

Most people in serious relationship will avoid talking to people of the gender they're interested in because they're scared their significant other is gonna be a lil bitch. Weirdly think its men who are more insecure about that than women these days. Other disclaimer though most men are lil beta bitch boys soooo.....

The only way you can find what you need is by giving your partner competition make sure they know what they need to be doing and make sure you both keep working on yourselves to be the best version of you.

But seriously guys if you find something you need and your partner wont give it to you dont stay in unhappy relationships cause its not fair to either of you.