How to deal with pain as a man

Just to start this I'm not trying to do the tate model here. I just agree with some off what he says.

So let's talk pain but with a spin. I don't belive pain is a bad thing. For years I've always ah well character building isn't it and I've only recently started believing this.

I've endured alot of shit times in my life. Horrible childhood, loss, heartbreak which has led me to periods of deep depression and generally not a great outlook on myself or life in general.

Recently I have flipped my mentality. Without all the shit I have gone though I wouldn't be who I am and who I want to be. I use that pain as fuel to push myself to higher goals. The question I find myself asking alot lately is why would I expect someone to choose me when I wouldn't choose myself given the opportunity and that is pushing me to improve myself.

The best people are those that have endured more pain that anyone else and have kept going because it demonstrates a level of stoicism and character most don't have.

I have recently found myself asking for more pain because everytime I'm in a dark place it pushes me to level up or at least gets me out of rut of mediocrity that im in.

Flip the script and be thankful for the opportunity to grow and better yourself don't sit and lament on the shit that's happened. Blame yourself analyse what you coukd have done better to prevent the pain and then level up. Move on to the next problem.

Swords are sharpened against stones not pillows.